5 Ways to Treat Yourself

I was talking with a friend the other day about Valentine’s Day. I’ve decided it is definitely low on the list of favorite holidays. There are always high expectations. Whether we are married, single, dating, missing an ex, it’s complicated, hanging with the girls, or whatever other categories we fall into on the holiday. So let’s forget all that and just treat yourself!

As much as I adore my friends, family, and husband. There are days where I just want to forget the world and have some “me time.” Anyone else? Just go out looking freaky fresh all on my own and soaking up the small moments. So here are 5 ways to treat yourself this Valentine’s Day. Quick, simple, and easy. Just like all things in life should be.

1. Literally, Treat Yourself

Put on your most comfy sweats and go pick up your favorite treat. Ice cream, a big soda-pop, those gosh darn sugar cookies you can’t get enough of! Don’t stress about anyone seeing you and just go get that yummy treat you’re always wanting, but never have the time for.

2. Mani-Pedi

I can’t say I indulge in the combination of both a manicure and pedicure at the same time very often. I might be alone with this one. But it is so worth feeling like you’re the queen of everything and walking out the salon like you can take on the world. It truly is all about the little things. So set up that V-day appointment and treat-yo-self.

3. Post A New Picture

Go through your photos, the good, the bad, the ugly. And post your favorite photo that is just you. If you don’t have one, make it happen. Alright alright, this one does seem a little narcissistic, but we all have our moments, right? But here’s why I’m endorsing this one 100%. Because you’re going to post the photo YOU love. Not the one you feel like will get the most likes or the one that might catch someone’s eye. But the photo that expresses who you are. That shows off your good side, and the flaws too. Soak up every part that makes you who you are and share it with the world. Maybe even feel a little vulnerable with yourself for a second. Because in the end, you’re going to be the exact same person you were before you posted it. The person you love and adore, no matter what!

4. Look Outward

Most these ideas are looking at yourself and finding something you love! I am a firm believer that looking outward is such a big part of that as well. Pick 3-5 people in your life and find a way to make their day. Share with them their favorite treat, go over to chat, run an errand or two with them. Just be there for them. I can almost guarantee that you’ll find something you like about that person along the way. And in turn, have more of an open mind to the characteristics you have and like as well.

5. Don’t Let Anything Hold You Back

K guys here is some honesty for you. I have ALWAYS thought it was a taboo thing to put a lot of effort into changing something about your physical appearance. Weird? Let me explain. I have always been pretty happy with my body and face. I just never saw much I wanted to change about myself. I believed we should take care of our bodies and be as healthy as possible, but also just let the little things be. It didn’t really matter in the long run if I had things I could change about myself.

I still strongly believe health is so important, but I lean more towards the change as well. Acne was a huge factor in changing my mind. I had your normal teen pimples here and there. Then it went away for a few years and then my 20’s came. I was 23 when my acne took a peak. I look back at pictures and try so hard to figure out what caused it or triggered it. I still have no answer for you. But it reached a point to where I was video calling with my brother and he asked me if I got in an accident because my face was so “beat up.” Yep no, just didn’t have as much makeup on that day.



My parents offered a few times to go to a dermatologist. But this mental roadblock kept me from going. I thought if I go then I’m changing apart of who I am and trying to control something I shouldn’t. My face is the way it was intended to be and who am I to argue with that? WHAT?! It totally doesn’t make sense to me now. We should find ways to feel a little more like our BEST SELVES!

It has taken me way too long to realize that changing a part of me is just becoming a better me. Just like when we work on our mental health, or work out, or stop bad habits, or form new ones. Me changing my appearance is simply finding new ways to become a little bit better!

Now, don’t get me wrong. This shouldn’t be the only thing we are concerned about. I don’t think anyone should surround their life around their appearance. There are far more important things in this world. But if it gives you that spring in your step and that extra boost of confidence then why not?!

So this year I told myself I was going to get rid of my acne. I have learned ways to cover it up over the years, but I want to be able to go swimming this summer and not have to worry about my make up melting off. Or go out to errands without “needing to put my face on.” So I took the words TREAT YOURSELF very seriously and got the Tres Leches Skin Care System from Maskara Beauty.


It’s a cleanser, toner, and moisturizer that doesn’t have all those chemicals normal face washes have. It’s a more natural and simple way of caring for your face. I can’t tell you how many towels I have bleached because of face products. Yet I would just keep putting them on my skin!

I have only had it for a week or so, so I don’t feel like I can give you 100% of a review just yet. But so far so good! My face feels SO much smoother already. The bumps aren’t bumps anymore, and my redness has gone down. I got a bigger pimple the day after I started using it. This bad boy would have stuck around for 7-10 days (yes, I know my pimples that well. We’ve been together awhile now.) But it has already gone down in size and redness. So I can’t wait to see what a difference these products make with more time.


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Alright, so Valentine’s is coming up but I hope you find a way to spoil yourself and celebrate you! Step out of a comfort zone a little and see what happens. Treat yourself to something sweet, or that look you’ve been wanting! Buy those cute jeans you’ve been eying. Or help someone else’s day be a great day!

No matter what you choose I want to know about it! Post your photos, ideas, and confidence finding on Facebook or Instagram using #theconfidentlyspeaking. Let’s start a community of building!

With much love,

The Confidently Speaking

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